Some believe that you can only have a loving, deep relationship with Other people if You have learned to be Solitary. That’s something to contemplate.

That if you have learned to be at home with yourself with no needs from Other people then you can go into your relationships more mindfully and lovingly because then you go into your relationships without having expectations that may blind you from what truly is. You can then go into your relationships without confusion, fear, neediness, and those insecure things that may occur to the mind.

To be deeply comfortable in solitude is a gift that you give yourself of knowledge--of having the courage to truly understand your own mind and respect yourself so that it may merge into all of the relationships that you take on as part of your life, which then also merges into how you care for your Community and the World. So that you will come into your relationships giving the Other respect, compassion, and unconditional love.

In a loving relationship: “Each person in the relationship needs to guard the solitude of the other.”  In guarding the sense of independence and solitude of the other person you cultivate a relationship free of unnecessary havoc or distress. You help make each others journey easier and pleasant.

I believe that two people who are at home with themselves and come together can make for a very rich relationship.